Where Is The Friend’s Home?

“Where Is The Friend’s Home?”- It’s an Iranian film that depicts a simple account of a hardworking schoolboy’s quest to return his friend’s notebook for avoiding him to be punished by his teacher next day. The boy hunts down the entire village in search of his friend throughout a day. Why I am writing this today is because it took me back to my school days. I realized while watching this movie that I forgot to cherish the memories that made my childhood a bit thrilling and adventurous. This part of my childhood kept me walking most of the time.

When I was just a schoolboy, my friend and me were fond of wondering in the neighboring areas of our homes and school. Be it vacations or exams we always continued finding new ways for different play destinations- gardens, play grounds, play stations, game zones, and off course, a friend’s home. It was an adventurous task we used to do regularly- visiting any friend’s home (obviously, at distant place!) without telling him in advance that we would be coming to meet him. That was the core part of that stupid activity. Finding us at door step unexpectedly our Friend had to be shocked and overwhelmed.

Now days, we don’t hunt for a friend’s home because either we’ve got full address or they don’t stay in the city we live.  We don’t surprize them by suddenly dropping there suddenly because our message makes buzz before we ring the doorbell. Things have changed drastically, not slowly and gradually. We all did many crazy things like this in our childhood, and have stopped doing after we are out of school. Neither are we expected to do. Children do what they want; and when they are grownups they do what they are expected to do.

We were child, and now responsible people. This doesn’t make us forget the full of happening childhood that taught us by taking every day as a new adventure. We don’t need to be childlike, but what’s more necessary is to cherish that childhood to keep us young at heart, to keep us walking from one destination to another, and to keep us surprizing everyone around us.

Let’s walk! 

Finding the Right Way: Step by Step

Get the worst out of your site first, and you will have good options to choose. Decision making is considered as a significant factor among the best world leaders and management gurus. For almost everyone, it’s an everyday situation of “to be or not to be”. Asking suggestions from others without doing and pre-work on the subject will lead you to disarray. Therefore, doing a comprehensive study, gathering necessary details, feedback and finalizing the options are the basic tasks you need to do before seeking people’s suggestions.

I personally feel that when you are not sure what to choose or what to do (having no list of options), others will just add options more than your need unnecessary. Be it buying new mobile, camera, bike or car, you must do research on the subject matter. To decide something very important, getting an idea from someone will be definitely helpful. But asking many intellects may create chaotic situation. Different intellects may have diverse opinions with ample amount of examples and good logic to support their idea. At this stage, even after taking all suggestions you are surrounded by the multiple choices with no clue.

In this blog, I have discussed three steps before you directly seek others’ suggestions and idea. This could help you in resolving many complicated questions without being questioned by yourself again!

First step is to study the subject from both ends: your requirement (need/expectations), and the limitations of available source. Before mounting a heap of your necessities boundlessly, think about the limit point of sources and products. It’s not necessary that whatever you want should be available in market. Sometimes, it’s not possible to put all best gears and gadgets into a single package. They aren’t giving you everything as just what you expect; they want you to choose from the choices they are providing (sad part of the topic). Do a good study to frame your needs.

Secondly, gather all essential details regarding the product you want to buy. These details include pros and cons, user feedback, reviews, features, reliability and competitive analysis. These details will help you finding the perfect match for your needs. It will also make you aware of fake advertisements and biased opinions that misguide you by making you more confused.

Next, filtering the options based on the reviews and feedback. Use your conscience to sort the options taking into account your interest and needs, and feedback given by people who have enough experience of the product. The best way to sort out the best from the bundle of choices is to apply “odd man out” method. Using this theory you can easily eliminate options that don’t suit your interest. This helps when you have lots of choices in the same category. Therefore, instead of accumulating many suitable numbers, take out what is not fitting your condition.

Finally, limit the choices to maximum 3 numbers and throw them for other to suggest. Here, you may not get confused learning different views on the given choices as there are just three options. You can easily understand the best among them.

Study, gather data, filter, final the options and ask people to honestly suggest the best from your given options only. 

Chicken Pox Unlimited

Some things bother us sometimes, and some things bother us every time. There are some things that appear once in a lifetime, but will bother you every now and then for a long time. Unwanted elements are worthy to be highlighted till we realize their importance and unavoidable existence. But once “Unwanted” things are accepted, we need to walk through them towards the end if harsh reality with calm mind and firm determination.

I have learned this lesson from the galling experience of “Chicken Pox Episode” that lasted for almost a couple of weeks. Facing our own horrifying face is far more difficult than the spearing pain through the body. Eventually, I recovered from this gruesome experience and set back to routine life. I was left with chicken pox scars and marks making me upset every now and then I see my face. Then I started looking people with same predicament as mine. I used to ask almost everyone, “Have you ever had Chicken pox?” In response, got “Yes” from almost all of them. Actually, I was comparing my woes with others’. Then, I realized it does not matter how hard times you passed through if you learn to accept the harshness and walk with ease. That will soften the hones of coming Time.

We all have sorrows, woes and tragedies in our lives. We ought to live with them; we have to face the “scars”. What is left in our hand is to wait to wash away the “scars” and change the gear on right turn.

A Great Exit

A while ago, I came to know the death of an iconic man whose genius gifted us jaw dropping gadgets. Steve Jobs, the founder of Apple is now no more physically in this world, but he will always been remembered for his landmark children-iPhone, iPad, iPod and many more. He will be missed for unimagined imagination he showed in his job. All this post death respectful condolence is a must part of each great personality who gifted the world through their genius.  Their lives are marked with a great exit, like we all know what happened with Steve a couple days before his death. 

A friend of mine got a SMS early morning stating the death of Steve Jobs. He was not aware Steve and his jobs. After reading some news articles, he said, “I don’t know who he was, but I feel uneasiness for something. It may be not for his death but for our death.” It was not so easy for me as well to understand what he meant. He was right, do we think about our exit from this world? Have you ever thought who will be missing your deeds after your death? Will you leave a heap of memories and gifts that will be cherished by your family, society, country and the world? 

Once you learn how to die, you will learn how to live.

The great personalities from Mahatma Gandhi to Nelson Mandela, from Swami Vivekananda to Einstein, their lives give a valuable lesson: live for a great cause and plan your life for success of the cause. When you live your life, plan how to live, deliver yourself before the world and exit the world. Here, in this world of immortality, your end is more important than your entry. Your birth is no longer considered to make you remembered even after your death. Your life will be counted for what have you done during the period you spent on earth. 

People are respected for their great tasks no matter whether they do it for themselves or for others. Many individual sports players played for their whole life. They played for their immense desire to play and enjoy the game, and they conquered greatest heights of success in their field. Some people dedicated their life for the sake of country and society. Their contribution finally caused some great inspiration, dreams and positive life lessons. This is the essence of great life. 

The following ancient Sanskrit saying précises the great truth of living a great life:

“When you were born, you cried while the world rejoiced. Live your life in such a way that when you die, the world cries while you rejoice.”

Just Do Eat

In life, everyone is bound to follow some values. The values may differ from one person to another, but we all are bound to a single universal principle. This is the discipline that nature has blessed us, and we all are proud to follow this heart filing rule- JUST DO EAT.

The moment you stepped into this world, you busted out loudly not for your mom but for the food. You just wanted somebody to help you filling your three inches stomach. From that day to the present moment, you are running, talking, toiling, fighting, and lying for the same noble reason knowingly or unknowingly. This run will go on for the rest of your life. Our happiest moment of every day is when we have stomach full tasty food at right time, right place and with right people. Off course, having good company while having our lunch, dinner or even breakfast is as important as the quality and variety of the food we are going to put into our baggage. Sometimes these things over take the food, as we experience this while having a cup of tea on a small road side stall with our near-dear friends, a late night Maggie with a hungry roommate and a small cupcake from the delicate hands of your cute baby.

We are born to eat, treat and greet. When we are happy, we wish to eat, then we give treats to others who are exceedingly happy to eat with us; when we all are happy to eat together, we greet each other for the treat we made memorable. These get-togethers and parties remain forever in our memory as a token of our unity for eating and our loyalty to the JUST DO EAT policy. I feel myself very lucky to have many eating loving people. We love to eat foods with different tastes and at different places. The Indian mythology focuses the importance of healthy food for not only healthy body but also healthy mind and character. Hence, we have now many reasons to eat, celebrate, and throw treats. Just go and eat.

Question Mark

In the world of dreams and imagination, you live with a universal thread that shadows your life inside out. Your aspirant soul is never tired of waiting. No matter where you are, how you feel now, how long you have walked or achieved greatest crowns in the world you still keep waiting, waiting and waiting…


Do you believe in Angels? Do you believe in God-omniscient, omnipresence and omnipotence? Do you believe in the definite end of this world? Would you support a national cause till your death? Will you hang your loved one for transgression?


Can you be sure if what you do, think and speak will go in right direction? Will you be able to serve the desired goal with pure heart and intellect?


If you are still busy in finding answers to these questions, you must have be ready with a contemplated answer for a dominant question-Do you believe in yourself?

Empty Days...Empty Days..

Vacuous time, barren flow and the empty days,

Yesterday, today and yet another day,

Idly passing seamless countless nights and days,

Sliding through the slippery vacant way.

Deadly sound from the dark beating,

Drawing sketches with lessen colours,

Endless seconds with the loud clicking,

Shattered tower and standing pillars.

Snowy the way spread everywhere,

Leading no one towards nowhere,

Across the sea white air smelling,

Discovering the golden bay rarely reaching.

                        Dated 7 February, 2007; recalled 12 June, 2011

Frivolously Asked Questions

Questions are unquestioned part of our mysterious life.  We face questions that insist us to stop, think and answer. Mostly, we try to answer anyhow some questions, avoid them or simply reject the questions for not making any sense. In your day-today’s life, people put many simple, short and objective questions in front of you. It isn’t necessary that every time you face a question you are in problem. Some questions are just meant to be asked, and you are not supposed to answer them as if you are writing a test paper. Some questions carry the answers themselves. People ask questions even when they know the answer, people argue with themselves, and expect someone else to participate in that futile dialogue.

In this blog post, I will be dealing with two most common questions we face every day. We understand FAQs are meant to help you by providing useful information, but the following questions put you in dilemma. 

  

?    What’s up? :- These two irritating words we hear hundreds of times in a day. Almost 98% people we meet include ‘What’s up?’ in their greeting. Experts say that ‘What’s up?’ stands for many questions- How are you? How you doing your things? What are you doing? What plans you have in mind? How things are going at your side? etc. They may be your friends, colleagues, neighbors, or the shopkeeper from whom you buy daily news paper. They simply greet you-Hello, Hi! Or Good morning! How are you?, and put that useless phrase in a typical tone. The way people pronounce the phrase ‘what’s up’ indicates that your answer is not expected or not worth to be mentioned, or even if you reply it won’t be considerable. Isn’t it Amazing? I think, it’s amazing because you are surrounded by people who just show their interest in you as if they are doing a charity.

 This might have happened to you when you enter in your office. Your colleague or manager passes through you by chance, and he throws a scrappy line upon you- Hi! What’s up? You turn back with a big smile on you face to tell what happened this weekend, but you can hardly see anyone standing there to hear your reply. This is just ridiculous! The question remains how to answer “What’s up?” and how to get rid from this irritating phrase I suggest you to follow my trick. Somebody once asked me what’s up, and I just looked up and said- its sky! ;) It works, believe me.

?    What’s next? :- Did you say ‘next’? Or did you ask what will be Future? This is another two wordy questions with a lengthy, bold and highlighted question mark that leaves us with blank mind and bare handed in any situation. You never know what’s going to be your future. The phrase ‘What’s next?’ comes to your mind frequently, for instance, when you finish a life taking test, after you proposed your dream-girl, when you came out facing a lengthy interview or when you start brawl with a cracking slap. All these times you never know what will at the next moment. Thousands of thoughts may come into your mind.

The interviewer never knows who will be the next candidate to whom he will interview when he says ‘Next!’ in authorizing attitude. The next candidate can be replaced to the interviewer. You may predict the result of a cricket match, but you can’t tell what’s going to be on next bowl, can you?

Since you have just done with reading/skimming or jumping my write up, I can’t help asking you what’s up? ;)

 

Social Networking Vs. Relationship

Here we learn Communicate

Here we learn to Contradict

Here we learn to Debate

Here we practice Co-ordinate

Here on this earth, everywhere, at all the times….in all the ways…..

We learn to LIVE!

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While we spend a long time with people around us, we don’t recognize that we are bound with the Society. But spending a very short moment gives an unbearable and uneasy experience of loneliness. In fact, we are trapped into this labyrinth of varied relationships and become fond of it.

Do you know why a big part of the world’s population comes under the category of Stressed People? The most remarkable common factor among these people is their failure in communication or in relationship. Now, I believe that when we are alone, spending time without any communication we become introvert. Mostly, a lonely person with lot of thoughts starts talking himself or herself. Just like the famous characters of Shakespearean plays-Hamlet and King Lear. These are ultimate models of self communicating human beings. Their loneliness was not only physical, but also psychological. We call this situation as Alienation.

The alienation of a person may be from friends, parents, society, a particular place (e.g. native place) or from the material and spiritual world. I experienced that this alienation or loneliness makes us to concentrate and think about the things that we don’t notice usually. The power of observation and analysis of incidents shows its best output ever experienced.

Here, I would like to mention my own this kind of experience at a remote place. Of course, it was not actually a remote place. I was among the hundreds of folks who had gathered to seek the pleasure of the beauty of nature, loving personalities, pleasure of entertainment and the pleasure of peace. We have been accepting the sentence-“Man is a Social Animal”. This animal is fond of society and crowd.

Today, we have plenty of options to communicate debate and express our thoughts. These channels are social networking, blogging, messaging and chatting with a friend who is sitting at a distant place. Some people find their peace in chatting with the people whom they’re not familiar face to face or have not met even once throughout their lives. Therefore, we rarely get time for self interaction and observe the incidents around us.

The question arises that how a person can seek pleasure in chatting or talking to an unknown person? How would you believe that the other person is able understand your condition? There can be another aspect that these blind-chatting folks are afraid of knowing that somebody knows their mind. This type of communication can’t be counted as a relationship but just NETworking where what maters I just connections technically. It doesn’t matter whether you are emotionally involved in that “connection”.

I think, the Social Networking can be the primary step to build a relationship, and the “Connectors” may use it to check its sustainability and feasibility.

When you pen a letter, put life in it!

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When you pen a letter, put life in it!

 

I just came across an article convincing me that we are losing a great pleasure of our life due to over use of technology.  Yes, I am talking about our letter writing skill that we’re unable to practice now days. Really, writing letters makes direct and instant contact with the reader’s mind with you.  Although, you will get thousands of printed greetings, e-mails (that are forwarded from your friends) and SMS’, but you can’t make the receiver delighted as you expect.

On the other hand, when you pen a letter you put your feelings in simple and clear words. These letters show how deep attachment you have with a particular person and the receiver can also experience your involvement in writing. The most effective part of written letters is that the reader can imagine you actually sitting on chair, bed or at your favorite secret place and writing the letter with completely sunken in his/her thoughts. That makes the reader overwhelmed by your thoughts, and that reader immediately sends a warm reply to your letter. What else you want as an appreciation for your writing?

Before some years I thought that I couldn’t practice letter writing for communication. Today, I wonder that I had written bundle of letters while graduating. I wrote number of letters in English and Marathi as well. Isn’t it amazing? ;)  It was a high period when I used to play with words in prose and poetry. Many of my friends still don’t believe this fact, and some friends believe that I’m secretive in this matter. Pages after pages were penned, read, memorized and burned and torn up to pieces. It doesn’t matter what you do with the pieces of paper once you succeed in conveying your message to the Destination. The words and sentences in your letter vaporise into the air and become the part of somebody’s memory, and you remember how you enjoyed writing those letters every time you miss that experience.

So remember, whenever you write, write with life..! At least I’ll follow it.